Imam Khomeini attached great significance to his wife's rights

Imam Khomeini, the leader of contemporary Muslim world had observed and kept a balance in handling his responsibilities while undertaking struggle for the Islamic Revolution and after becoming the leader of the Islamic Republic.

ID: 52738 | Date: 2019/03/22
Imam Khomeini’s family members and people within his close circle have recalled in a series of memoirs that the late founder of the Islamic Republic used to observe rights of his family despite all his engagement to social and political matters.


Imam allocated proper time for children and grandchildren despite the fact he had to handle a range of issues, including holding meetings with officials and addressing grave matter of national interests and the affairs of the Muslim world.


Imam Khomeini's wife, known as the holy Lady of Iran or the lady of the revolution was a wise and patient woman. 


Memoirs by Imam’s Wife


Imam always offered me the better place in the room.  He would not start eating until I came to the dinner table.  He would also tell the children: ‘Wait until Khanom comes.’  He maintained respect for me and was not even willing that I should work in the house.  He would always tell me: ‘Don’t sweep.’  If I wanted to wash the children’s clothes at the pond, he would come and say: “Get up, you shouldn’t be washing.” 
 
On the whole, I have to say that Imam did not consider sweeping, washing dishes and even washing my children’s clothes as part of my responsibilities. If out of necessity I sometimes did these, he would get upset considering them as a type of unjust dealing towards me. 
 
Even when I entered the room, he would never say: ‘Close the door behind you,’ but waited till I sat down and then would himself get up and shut the door. 

 Siddiqa Mustafavi (Imam’s daughter) through a series of memoirs has mentioned that  Imam had extraordinary respect for his wife.  For example, I am not lying if I say that in the period of 60 years of living together, he did not even reach for food (on the dinner table) before his wife, nor did he have even the smallest expectation from her.  I can even say that in the period of 60 years of living together, at no time did he even ask for a glass of water, but would always get it himself.  If he was in such a position that he could not, he would say:  ‘Is the water not here?’  He would never say: ‘Get up and bring me water.’  He behaved this way not only with his wife but also with all of us who were his daughters. If he ever wanted water we would all enthusiastically run to get it, but he never wanted us to bring and give him a glass of water in his hand.
 
During the difficult last days of his life, each time he would open his eyes, if he was capable of speaking, he would ask: ‘How is Khanom?’  We would reply: ‘She is good. Shall we tell her to come to you?’  He would answer: ‘No, her back is hurting.  Let her rest.’
 

According to Siddiqa Mustafavi (Imam’s daughter), Imam was very attached to his wife and had special respect for her, so much so that he placed his wife on one side, and his children on the other.
 
I remember that once Imam’s wife had gone on a journey, and Imam was missing her very much.  When he would frown, we would jokingly say to him:  ‘When Khanom is here, Imam laughs, and when she is not here, Imam is upset and frowns.’
 
In short, however much we teased Imam, he would not stop frowning.  Finally I said: ‘Blessed is Khanom that you like her so much.’  He said: ‘Blessed am I that I have such a wife.  No one else has sacrificed as much in life as she has.  If you too would be like Khanom, your husband would also like you this much.’
 
Siddiqa Mustafavi (Imam’s daughter)